
Few take the marriage vows “in sickness and in health” as
seriously as Bernadette Adams.
For the past three decades, she has dedicated her life to
taking care of her husband, former French soccer player Jean-Pierre Adams, who
is in a coma, according to the Catholic News Agency.
In 1982, Jean-Pierre had routine knee surgery to repair a
sports-related injury, but never woke up from the anesthesia; he was 34 years
old, according to the report. The family later won a lawsuit against the
medical staff who botched the procedure, the report states.
Bernadette, now 72, spends every day by her husband’s side
at the home in Nimes, France. Jean-Pierre will be 68 in March; and his wife
refuses to put him in a nursing home, according to the report.
“I talk to him all the time — about TV, what’s in the mail,
anything!” Bernadette told CNN. “There is always movement around him. He is
always next to us.”
The report continues:
“I think he feels things. He must recognize the sound of my
voice as well,” Bernadette told CNN in a recent interview, saying he can still
breathe on his own but needs round-the-clock attention.
Bernadette and Jean-Pierre met at a dance in the 1960s. As an
interracial couple, the two grew in resilience through the challenges they
faced and married in 1969. Not long after, Jean-Pierre was playing first
division side football as the “garde noire” alongside some of the best in the
world.
“He was the ‘joie di vivre’ embodied in human form – a
laugher and joker who liked to go out,” his wife told CNN.
That all changed on March 17, 1982 when the understaffed
hospital botched Adams’ intubation, causing a heart attack, brain damage, and
an eventual coma. The surgery was ruled as an “involuntary injury” and the
medical workers were found guilty seven years after the incident
Jean-Pierre, now 68, is cared for daily by his faithful wife
Bernadette. She feeds him, talks to him, clothes him, and still buys presents for
him to open on his birthday.
“I’ll buy things so that he can have a nice room, such as
pretty sheets, or some scent. He used to wear Paco Rabanne but his favorite one
stopped so now I buy Sauvage by Dior,” Bernadette told CNN.
The couple has been married for 46 years. The first few
years of their marriage were filled with Jean-Pierre’s rise to fame as one of
the first black players for the French national soccer team, according to the
report.
“He was the ‘joie de vivre’ embodied in human form — a laugher
and joker who liked to go out,” Bernadette said. “Really, a smile was always
bursting out. He loved the good life and was loved by everybody as well.”
Then the tragic incident occurred, leaving Jean-Pierre in a
coma. Though some have suggested euthanasia, which is legal in several European
countries, Bernadette refuses to consider it. She still believes Jean-Pierre’s
life is valuable, and hopes that he could get better.
“What do you want me to do – deprive him of food? Let him
die little by little? No, no, no,” she said. “If one day, medical science
evolves, then why not? Will there be a day when they’ll know how to do something
for him? I don’t know.”
CNN reports more about the couple’s life together now:
Bernadette looks after her husband with an unfailing love —
dressing, feeding and bathing him, turning him over in his bed to avoid sores,
and often losing her own sleep to ensure he gets his.
It’s a measure of their bond that on the rare occasions
Bernadette spends a night away from home, Jean-Pierre’s carers notice his mood
seems to change.
“He senses that it is not me feeding him and looking after
him,” says his wife of 46 years. “It’s the nurses who tell me, saying he is not
the same.
“I think he feels things. He must recognize the sound of my
voice as well.”
Though many would have given up on Jean-Pierre long ago or
even thrown away his life by euthanasia, Bernadette perseveres in caring for
him each and every day. And that is a true love story.
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