Don't confuse someone to the extent that they actually have to ask you, "what are we"?

I don't know about you but I think the most important thing anyone has to offer anyone these days is their time and emotions.

Personally , the time , commitment , energy and emotions I devote and invest on each person , situation and every other thing in my life are based on my perceived relationship.
The type of relationship , time or emotion I devote on my work is absolutely different from the amount I devote on my kids .

If you are like me , I hate wasting people's time and I definitely don't want anyone to waste my own time and emotions .
I would rather read a book than be on a phone , in the movies , restaurant, school, or church, building something that does not exist because you gave me the wrong impression or I misconceived the situation due to lack of communication.

And please , when I mentioned time wasting , it does not have anything to do with age . If like be 20, 35 or 50 years old , the same damn rule still applies.
Imagine as a 17 years old under graduate, every day you do assignments , take notes and what have you for this babe you perceive as your girlfriend only for her to introduce another dude to you ? There is nothing wrong with charity but the emotion I will invest doing assignment for my man is definitely different from the emotions of a classmate .

Imagine this guy you have been talking to on Skype, whatsapp, BBM , viber , tango , FaceTime and all the technology in this world. In your mind , you have rehearsed how you will react when he finally proposes , you have picked asebi colours and wedding venue ; only for the dude to start forming we are just Friends after eight months!

Ouch ! Before you know it you have been rejected by all these technologies and apps?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with clarifying feelings , roles and relationships.
Believe me, guys especially can send disco light confusing signals. They can go from blue to red to green in one day !

I don't know about you , but I would rather stay in my bed and watch game of thrones reruns than to go on a perceived date with a guy who will end up talking about another babe , his supposedly girl crush ,the whole night (and no didn't happen to me , just saying ).
The reactions and feelings I guess would have been different if you two know you are just friends. If that boundary has been established .

We can be friends! We can achieve great things as friends , but don't try be friends today , lovers tomorrow and friends again ! Whichever one you want to be , be the best !
Don't be shy , it's not an of act desperation but rather an act of putting things into prospective, where they belong. It won't kill you to ask , though there is a potential that you might hurt a little , especially if the other person doesn't feel the same way, but always clarify relationships, feelings , and don't just assume. Before you start liking them back for no reason.

Believe me , relationships can change status while you are in it from being just friends to being more than Friends and vice versa .
Always try to find out if you are on the same page with someone; and please if anything like your feelings changes while you are in it , let the person know .
Let your friend know that you have fallen for them , let your partner know that you don't feel the same way about them anymore !

Don't be in relationship with someone without them knowing it !
Don't be a time waster ! You can't be in someone's life trying to figure out if you want them or not, sending confusing signals ! You can do that on your lane ! Go to them when you actually figure that out !
Don't confuse someone to the extent that they actually have to ask you, "what are we"?
Written by the gorgeous lady pictured above, Nora Oma.