Nigerian Women and their double standard mindset#MenWillLikeThisOne

As women , we are happy to marry a rich man , to come in and claim automatic joint ownership of everything he had before he married us .

We come in and claim ownership of a house that we don't know when the foundation was dug , a car we don't know even when the decision of the color was made ; in fact , as the wife , we want to be given the list of all the properties our husband owns before he even thought about marrying us .
And that's ok , because he is of course your husband , 1 + 1 = 1 , you are his wife , you are fighting for your children's inheritance and other bla bla !

But ironically , it is still us women that will first tell our fellow women not to let our husbands know how much we have our account , you are in fact perceived as stupid if you do .

It's also some of us women, that will swear over their dead body not to include our now husband's name in the properties we have before we married him .
In fact , I have heard women make statements like , "no carry your car go your husband's house , leave am car for your brothers ."

Really ! So as a woman , it's ok to go to your husband's house empty handed ? The few properties you had as a single lady you want to leave to your brothers abi ? So are your children not allowed to inherit your own properties ? Or is it only a man that is born to leave things for his children ?
But then you want to come his house and struggle for his own properties with his family ! You want to form our car , my husband's house , I am a wife and the next thing you start quoting bible ! Is anybody a fool ?

Women , please let's make up our minds about what we really want in a relationship . If we want unity , for sure we will run on the unity campaign ; but if also we want your own is your own and my own is my own kind of relationship , again there is no problem .
I will personally use my own platform to campaign for that , but we can not absolutely have it both ways !

You can not hold on to one or two plots of lands you have as a single woman and expect a man to bring the 10 plots of his own land and add your name because you are a wife but you won't do the same because he is a husband, Heck no !

I personally believe in unity ; and you don't have any business marrying a man you do not trust enough to combine your resources with .

Things like this should come naturally . If you are getting married and you have a car , please go to your husbands house with your car , leaving it for your brothers for me is an act of selfishness . Let your brothers go and buy their own cars .
Or better still , let both parties leave whatever personal belongings they have when they were single , come as and build from the scratch .
Imagine how that will feel .Don't leave your car with your brothers and come to his house and disturb him to buy you a new car or drive his own . Who is even a fool in this world ? We need to change our mindsets as women ! We need to honestly reevaluate some of these our culture and mentality .

Whatever property you two had before you got married , based on understanding and not coercion , should be put together as one . You can start by adding each other's names on the already existing documents as co-owners .

I mean after marriage people make life adjustments ; if you could change your last name after marriage, you can also change other things .

Yes you can argue all day about men are wicked , women are Jezebels , but if you can't trust that person enough to do this simple thing , then you don't have any business marrying them to begin with !

Written by Nora Oma Patrick