Nigerian women Who Are Not Legally Married To Men Fight Other Women More Than The Legally Married Ones

If you are not legally married to a man calling him your own might be a huge mistake. If you like have 70 kids with him, you are just his children’s mama and he your children’s daddy. If you really want to be with a man tell him to do the right.

The right thing is take him to your parents to pay your bride price, going to court or church is just a choice.

I notice these days women who are not legally married to men fight other women more than the ones who are legally recognized. They are ready to kill any woman they see around their self-acclaimed husband. They disgrace you in public and also threaten to kill you. Some go out of their ways to carry out their threats.

 The legally married ones only pray for you to stay away from their husbands and also talk to their men in a way that may change their minds. Thou not all of them, the ones who really marry because they want to marry and grow old with the man.

I have an in-law who is a pastor, I visited him and his family one day, and a lady brought a picture of a man for prayers. She told the pastor to pray so that the man will not see other women except her and his wife. My In-law asked her “is this man married”? And the lady said yes. My in-law told her he doesn’t even pray for people using pictures talk less of praying for another person’s husband to have eyes for another woman.

The lady grabbed the picture and left with annoyance, I was astonished and was asking myself the kind of God that created that lady. My in-law shook his head and told me that what I saw was just the least among others.

There is something called “Abuja Marriage” Lagos Marriage” and Port Harcourt marriage”, it is not as if it doesn’t happen in other cities. It happens but more common in the above mentioned three cities. A man and a woman will just live together have children without the them knowing each other’s parents. They can live for years.

Some are married but on transfer to another city for a job, such people don’t go with their families. They live alone and some even go as far as removing their wedding ring just to claim single. This enable them get the type of women they want, some desperate babes or will I say some women who claim to love them will give in anything just to be with such men. Before you know what is going on baby is on the way and the lady will move in with the man without doing the right.

What the lady knows is that she is married and the man is her husband, there is difference between being married and living with a man. When they find out that they have been fooled. They will become heart broken and some will not leave the man. Yes they have come to stay and there is no two ways about it, especially when the real wife decides to forgive her man. In this situation whom are you going to blame? You decide. In as much as you want to be with a man make sure the right is done properly.

Here in Nigeria a lot things happen because Majority of Nigerian women depend on their husbands for everything, while some don’t want to go back to their family and begin to search for love again which may not come easily or may never come at all. Many Nigerian men don’t like what I call “Tokumbo”(fairly used). That means women who have given birth or married before. If you are one of them, you must have something special to be married again or find love again in this country. If that happens you must be very lucky.